Is it true that women are less ambitious than men and prefer to stay at home and raising the kids?
Even though everyone is entitled to his and her own opinion, I ask myself sometimes how voicing such an opinion can stir up some big controversy.
A writer with the name Gavin McInnes, and by choosing a platform like “Fox News“, go figure, it almost makes sense to hear remarks from him like: “women are less ambitious and would be happier staying at home“. Really, Mr. McInnes is that what you think?
I mean this last remark from me to be sarcastic. Men, like McInnes, are still around these days, and since we are in the “Me Too” movement era, it astounds me every time when a new scandal of harassment, sexual assault, etc., has become public, how this thinking of us women is still alive.
Women, again, not just my opinion, are very good at multitasking. McInnes further stated in his remarks, that this great ability of multitasking can be the reason that there is such an earning gap between men and women because women just don’t care, so he says.
To be fair, this might be true for the previous generations, although I don’t see it to be true in this day and age.
Note: I refer to our Western culture and society, I can not speak for other cultures with different social standings and or religious beliefs, the same goes for any (female) individual. There are still some women who won’t change or are too afraid to speak up for themselves.
However, in our Western society women are more and more liberated, pursuing higher occupational positions, becoming the CEO of corporations, founding their own businesses and even more women will enter jobs in law enforcement or the military.
Even more women than ever before are going into politics. It is only a matter of time when America will have its first female president. That this has not happened already in the country who calls itself the marvel of democracy is not only disappointing but a real shame.
Are we really don’t care?
He, McInnes, further explains that a woman would rather go to her daughter’s piano recital than working all night.
That’s why women earn less; and besides, he says, this is God’s way (like he really knows what is God’s way on this subject) and it is natural that a woman stays at home and raising the kids.
Besides, he says, they are happier that way, anyway.
When a chauvinistic man like Gavin McInnes makes a statement like this, I can see that feminists will explode immediately.
Although I don’t agree with McInnes’s point of view, neither do I agree with the radical view of the opposite sex.
It just doesn’t help the matter and it won’t solve the issue or anything else.
We all love our “free speech of expression” and in a real democracy, we have to learn how to deal with it, period.
There are different ways to Be Ambitious
Back to the statement that women are less ambitious than men, I think there are different ways to be ambitious.
Men, in most cases, have only one job. This one job is their whole ambition whatever they want and can achieve with it.
This can be a 9 to 5 job, a 12-hour shift work, or any extra/ overtime (even losing out on family time, weekends, etc.)
I recall a friend where the husband, a long-haul trucker, was on the road for 2-3 weeks straight, coming back home for less than a week and was back again for the next stretch of weeks on the road.
Once, I asked my friend’s husband how he feels being away for so long and this is what he answered to me. He enjoys trucking, and yes, he misses out on his family and his children’s activities in sports, etc. but he also feels good that everything will go fine since his wife is taking care of everything. Besides, he added, the money he earns also speaks for itself and that everyone will benefit from it.
I wasn’t sure what to think of it? Should I be happy or sad for my friend? I know, that she sometimes mentioned how everything gets a bit too much for her to deal with it. She has three kids, and they all have lots of extra school curriculums like guitar lessons, hockey, and other stuff.
My friend doesn’t have a huge or supportive family, on both sides, but in her time of need has a parent support group. Yes, she seems to manage her workload well. However, it doesn’t leave her much time to do something for her own pleasure. Even though her husband comes home for a week, she still won’t find much downtime.
A woman, when staying at home (free or not) has a 24-hour day. Period.
It never ends, or does it? A woman will take care of the household by cleaning, doing the laundry, grocery shopping, and so much more.
Helping the children with homework and all their out-of-school curriculum, doing the cooking (prep and after cleanup), perhaps likewise will take care of the garden when she has one.
After her husband comes home, her work is still not over. She listens to him, will comfort him when he needs it, and will praise him when everything went well.
This usually won’t be the case the other way around. Women to this day, are not being fully recognized with the work they do from home. There is no such thing as a 9 to 5 job for us.
Women, most of the time, never really catch a break, but don’t be fooled by TV shows like “The Real Housewives from…” This isn’t the reality most women face regularly.
A woman working from home is as much ambitious as her male counterpart. A woman sometimes shifts “her” ambitions towards a loved one and helps them to excel and succeed. Their success is her success.
A working woman, who is engaged in her work, away from home, will be as ambitious as any man. Sometimes even harder with more persistence than any man will give her credit for.
That’s why the earning has to be equal too, no questions.
Are you ambitious?
What is your personal understanding of ambition? And, if you consider yourself being ambitious, how will it look like? Can you multitask and if so does it drain you quickly or do you manage everything with flying colors?
These are legit questions and only the individual can answer them honestly and truthfully.
Don’t Kidd yourself or even put yourself down not being good enough your work is important and if you are unsure of it, sit down and write about your day’s work from the moment you get off the bed until you go to bed.
It might surprise you to discover how much work you have done on this day, any day.
My little “ambitious” Story
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