When a Woman earns more Money than her Man, will there be a Problem?

You bet it will. When a woman does earn more money than her man, this certainly will create tension. 

Gender Pay Gap


We women are yet being set up in the “old” ways, extending back for centuries. The woman stays at home, taking care of the house and the children, the man goes out of the house and brings in the money.

He also will be most of the time the one who says how the money will be spent. He gives his wife a weekly, bi-weekly or a monthly budget she will take care of.

Not only will she buy the groceries, but perhaps has to pay the bills as well.  A thrifty woman, then, will still even put away some dollars for “special” occasions.


All these centuries, women usually never really asked about their role as a wife and partner, and it seems to me that it will not, or perhaps never, die out completely.

Women in the old days, when financially independent, had either inherited that money or had an occupation that supported them well, without the need of being married.

Simply there is a change

Younger couples, nowadays, are getting along better. The salary gap isn’t that huge anymore as it was 2 decades ago. Yet, there is still tension, even in today’s relationships, when the woman earns a substantial more money than her man.

I suppose, when you research the internet, you will see many articles from psychologists and other masters who will address this topic in more depths.


Be confident and proud of yourself

When you are a woman who delivers in an outstanding career and realizes her good share of the money, be always proud of your achievements.

Don’t let yourself be brought down by somebody you love and trust, simply because their ego isn’t mature enough.

A “real” man will never be threatened by the success and the money his wife brings to the table.

AN Online Platform called Wealthy Affiliate

If you are a woman, like me, who doesn’t want to be tied down to stay at home, but then again, you really can’t go out and have 9-5 employment, or even just a simple part-time job, there is a solution which I like to address.

Let me introduce you to an online platform with the name Wealthy Affiliate which was founded in 2005 by two young entrepreneurs, Kyle & Carson.

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Carson & Kyle

These two young men had a vision, the vision, of course, to make money but also to help others to do the same.

This was over 14 years ago and this vision has bloomed into this amazing platform where you can learn how to establish and grow an online business, your business.

I have written a review on Wealthy Affiliate which you can read more in detail here. Nevertheless, I will outline a bit about what you can expect when you will join this online platform.

What has Wealthy Affiliate to offer?

You have two possibilities on how to join and become a member.

First, there is the free membership and when I say free, it is free, no Credit Card information either.

Under this free membership, you can create 2 websites for free without buying your own domain and your websites will be hosted there too, for free.

Then, there is the Premium membership, where you have more than one websites if you want to, which also will be hosted, this time for a fee.

However, when I talk about a fee and what else is included, which will be a monthly or even better, an annual fee, you may be surprised what features you can expect.

Features of going Premium:

  • 50 websites
  • Live help
  • One-on-One Coaching
  • Live Video Classes
  • Video walkthroughs
  • 24/7 Website support
  • Access to both Owners

These are just a few points to be mentioned there are much more to show. For me so far, besides all the great features, is the access to an awesome online community from members coming from all over the world.

The help, which I have received since I am with Wealthy Affiliate, from some members, is amazing. I am more than grateful for that.

Perhaps, I have awakened your curiosity or you have become intrigued to like know more about Wealthy Affiliate, I suggest you still read my review on them but also do your own research online.

In the past, I have been asked if you need some pre-requisites to join and my answer then always was NO, no pre-requisites are necessary. However, today I would say YES.

The only pre-requisite you really need is, to want to make money online and be willing to put in the work, which is needed. Wealthy Affiliate will give you all the tools and knowledge you need to succeed, however, the steps to do so are been required to be made by yourself.

As the phrase goes, everyone probably knows, ” You can lead the Horse to the water but you can’t make it drink the water“.

This sums it up. If you want to get out of the restriction you are in right now, like to earn your own money, once again, going with Wealthy Affiliate is a perfect choice and can help you with it.

Don’t fear to earn your own money even when you can make more money as your man.

Happy Successful Businesswoman

My Experience

I too, know the feeling of both ways. I wrote about myself and the situation, you can read more about here.

That’s why I have joined Wealthy Affiliate to not only create my own visions but also have the support of this platform to bring them to fruition.

Maybe, it is time for you as well to do the same.

What are your experiences about to earn your own money and have your own money and perhaps a higher salary as your partner?

You can drop me a comment below.

Wishing you always a wonderful day 🙂

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Author: Sylvia M.

Sylvia M. is a certified Holistic Energy Practitioner and started to work with alternative healing modalities like Reiki and Body Talk when she was still working as a Geriatric Nurse. However, to look after her ailing husband she had to make the decision and to leave the outside workforce. She is now working from home have learned the ABC of Affiliate Marketing through the platform Wealthy Affiliate. Sylvia is determined to give every "stay home woman" the same opportunity so they can too earning money from home.

26 thoughts on “When a Woman earns more Money than her Man, will there be a Problem?”

  1. Hello Sylvia, I loved this topic. I agree with you that “A “real” man will never be threatened by the success and the money his wife brings to the table.” In our community, there is a market only for women since decades ago, which is the only traditional women market found in India. I think women should have their freedom to earn as well. I personally encourage your writing supporting women’s earning. Thank you for sharing and wish you all the best for further articles.

  2. This is a great article to promote Wealthy Affiliate. I especially enjoyed the part when you speak of women being limited to funds by their husbands or partners, but now they can make their own money and possibly make more money than their partners. I hope more women get to see this. 

    1. Thanks, Nicole, for your comment and I really do hope, that more women will see this and will realize that they do have a chance to turn their situation around for their benefits.

  3. I know there are couples who see the money that each one earns as “our” money rather than his and hers and they decide together how to save, spend and invest so both of them reap the benefits and enjoy the money regardless of which person earns more. However, I do know that some men may have an issue with a woman earning more money but I think that points to a deeper issue with the man if this is the case.

    1. I appreciate your comment and insight on the matter. I also agree with you that when a man or even a woman (same-sex relationships) has an issue with the fact, that their partners do earn more money, there is certainly a deeper and probably hidden problem, which needs to be addressed.

  4. Hey Sylvia

    A very interesting and controversial topic covering alot of ground. 

    I am 53 years young and am completely comfortable with my wife earning more than I do but this wasn’t always the case.

    I grew up with my Dad working and bringing home the money while my Mum looked after my brother and I and the home. I married young and had 3 kids pretty quick. Money was extremely tight and I ended up working 3 jobs to stay afloat. My wife wanted to go back to work but my social programming and ego resisted. 

    I hope as the issues around equality and gender pay gaps etc are resolved than more men can move out of last century and not only be comfortable with their partner earning more than they do but actually encourage and welcome it.

    Also, Wealthy Affiliate rocks! A massive thumbs up from me on this as well. Hands down the best way for people to get started making money online.

    I hope you have an awesome day.



    1. Thanks, Ian, for your comment and sharing your personal experience on the matter.

      I agree the millennial generation will bring, finally, the big change to close the gender gap when it comes to who is  “allowed” to earn more money.

      Somehow we have to come out, for good, from the old thinking and the rigid gender roles.

      Thank you for your time 

  5. Hi, Sylvia. I think that everything depends on both of man and woman, how they will look at this situation. It is nothing wrong when partners share shores and responsibilities. I know families where husband stays at home with children and mother goes to work.
    Of course there are plenty of men who can not accept that woman can be able earn money more as him.
    However nobody can change him. The man must deal with his ego and work on this issue.
    I am glad that you found Wealthy Affiliate as the place where everybody can learn how to be financially independent.
    All the best, be healthy and wealthy, Nemira.

    1. Hi Neimira,

      Thanks for commenting and yes, you are absolutely right that it also depends on both parties on how they approach this issue and how they will deal with it.

      We can’t change another person’s point of view or attitude, but we can change always ours. 🙂


  6. Hi Sylvia,

    For me, I think I feel comfortable when my better half making more than me. Actually, it was. When we married, my wife was a Cram School English teacher, I was a sales manager of a local Public Listed IT company. She made twice more than I made. I always liked to develop own business and she supported me to do what I would like to do! 10 years ago, she is tired of her teaching career and decided to go to the US to study further. My business was quite well at that time and I supported her to get her master degree. When she would like to pursue her doctoral degree, NYU accepted her, but to consider the expense and living cost, she chose Suny Buffalo. After she got Ph.D., we backed to Taipei and she is teaching and doing research in University. We help each other to fulfill dreams. So my experience is a bit different from others.

    The reason I want to have my own business is to do what I like and make more money. I want to have freedom for both time and money.The truth is I am getting busier and business has its risks. That is the reason why I would like to learn the Internet marketing. I invested at least 5 digits money in learning, at the end, to be honest getting nothing. Until I found Wealthy Affiliate and joined. This community is quite different, many genuine training courses and people help others here. I believe it can help us to be successful in online business.

    1. Hi George,

      Thank you so much for your honest comment, it shows that when both partners support each other in their personal pursue that it really can work without the “Ego” crashing everything apart.

      Very interesting how you both did it. Congratulations 🙂


  7. I guess that many times some tension can occur in a relationship for this reason and I was in this kind of situation in one period of time. Yes, there was a tension.

    Old beliefs are installed so deeply in our brains, or maybe really the man and woman model that were here for ages is true and right? Whatever it is, I think despite how much who earns, first should come respect and help for each other in order to grow.


    1. I appreciate your comment and insight on this article’s content.

      It is good to be open to it and talk about it as well.

      Thanks for taking your time to do just that. 🙂

  8. I spoke to an advisor of my college. They were talking about the world issue and one of the topics involved is the increasing of the role of woman in the society today. I also heard it somewhere that a couple should aim for encouraging each other to reach their full potential.

    1. Hi Adrian,

      This is exactly correct, men and women should be working together to reach their potential as a cpuple and as a family, to everyone’s desire and need.

  9. Hello!

    I like the fact that you are speaking about this, as I would call it, the ultimate stupidity in human behavior. I could never understand that.
    My girlfriend makes more money that I do, and if I would follow the same pattern, I should be miserable about it. Feel less of a man!? How stupid would that be. I know this kind of reality affects many people and I know some of them. What a shame!

    Nevertheless, it is good that you write about it. Thanks!

    1. Hi Igor,

      Thank you for your comment and being so open.

      It is funny, or said (depends how you feel about it) that we still have these issues in our High Tech society, but I guess old patterns die out a bit slower as we all would like too.

      Glad to hear, that you are one of the “matured” ones. 🙂


  10. H Sylvia,
    It was nice to read your post. It is a shame that some men feel tensed when they earn less money than their women and also it is a shame that some women make them feel like it, I think it should not matter who earns more as far as your needs are met.

    1. Thank you for your comment and your input. this was also my intention too, that’s why I wrote this articleinate these old thinkining and or opinions. 🙂


  11. I personally think that if women earn more money than men, it wouldn’t be a big problem. As long as both couple are working and do their best to grow financially, things will be totally fine. However, if a woman is the only one that works hard but men do nothing, then it will create tension.

    Men are the one who are supposed to take care of the family. They should at least do something about it. I see some husbands just use the money earned from wives to have fun. That will be a conflict. But as for earning difference, it would be still okay. 🙂

    1. Hi Edy,

      Yes, this is certainly an issue, or could be, when a man does earn less money or none at all. This is still a part of our culture and or society we have grown up.

      But, I am confident that time will change too in this matter, it just takes time and the mass consciousness also has to change.

      Only time will tell. Thanks for your input.


  12. I agree with you. I admire women who are independent and manages their ,money well. Gone are the days when women should just be housewives. I believe that men and women should have equal rights and responsibilities both in earning money and taking care of the household and children. Do you have tips on how to divide the bills for the couple?

    1. Hi Keye,

      Thanks for your great comment and opinion on the topic. Well, do I have a tip. My husband and I are splitting some bills according to our income. He does all the insurances and property taxes etc. (they are the bigger bills), I do the regular ones like hydro, telephone and internet, just to name a few.

      I hope that helped a bit.


  13. Hi there
    I always enjoy your posts and this is no exception.Personally as a woman, I want my husband or partner to earn more than me, I want to feel taken care of and I will not feel comfortable if I’m earning more than my husband.
    I want my man to earn more, because to me, l consider a man should be the breadwinner(old thinking I know)
    But if it`s ok with both parties why not a woman can earn more, l just don’t want to be that woman .

    1. Hi roamy,

      I think you are awesome and there is certainly nothing wrong they way you want things. I myself in some ways old fahoned too. why not?

      Thanks for your input.


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