When a Woman earns more Money than her Man, will there be a Problem?

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You bet it will. When a woman does earn more money than her man, this certainly will create tension. 



We women are yet being set up in the “old” ways, extending back for centuries. The woman stays at home, taking care of the house and the children, the man goes out of the house and brings in the money.

He also will be most of the time the one who says how the money will be spent. He gives his wife a weekly, bi-weekly or a monthly budget she has to take care of. 

Not only will she buy the groceries, but perhaps has to pay the bills as well.  A thrifty woman then will still even put away some dollars for “special” occasions.



All these centuries, women usually never really asked about their role as a wife and partner, and it seems to me that it will not or perhaps never die out completely.

Women in the old days when financially independent had either inherited that money or had an occupation that supported them well, without the need of being married.

Simply there is change

Younger couples nowadays are getting along better. The salary gap isn’t that huge anymore as it was 2 decades ago. Yet, there is still tension, even in today’s relationships, when the woman earns a substantial more money than her man.

I suppose when you research the internet, you will see many articles from psychologists and other masters who will address this topic in more depths.


Be confident and proud of yourself

When you are a woman who delivers an outstanding career and realizes her good share of the money, is proud of your achievement.

Don’t let yourself being brought down by somebody you love and trust, simply because their ego isn’t mature enough.

A “real” man will never be threatened by the success and the money his wife brings to the table.

My Experience

I too know the feeling both ways. I wrote about myself and situation, you can read more here.

That’s why I have joined Wealthy Affiliate to not only create my visions but also have the platform to bring them to fruition.

Maybe, it is time for you as well to do the same.

What are your experiences about to earn and have your own money and perhaps a higher salary as your partner?

You can drop me a comment below.

Wishing you always a wonderful day 🙂

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18 thoughts on “When a Woman earns more Money than her Man, will there be a Problem?

  1. Hi there
    I always enjoy your posts and this is no exception.Personally as a woman, I want my husband or partner to earn more than me, I want to feel taken care of and I will not feel comfortable if I’m earning more than my husband.
    I want my man to earn more, because to me, l consider a man should be the breadwinner(old thinking I know)
    But if it`s ok with both parties why not a woman can earn more, l just don’t want to be that woman .

    1. Hi roamy,

      I think you are awesome and there is certainly nothing wrong they way you want things. I myself in some ways old fahoned too. why not?

      Thanks for your input.


  2. I agree with you. I admire women who are independent and manages their ,money well. Gone are the days when women should just be housewives. I believe that men and women should have equal rights and responsibilities both in earning money and taking care of the household and children. Do you have tips on how to divide the bills for the couple?

    1. Hi Keye,

      Thanks for your great comment and opinion on the topic. Well, do I have a tip. My husband and I are splitting some bills according to our income. He does all the insurances and property taxes etc. (they are the bigger bills), I do the regular ones like hydro, telephone and internet, just to name a few.

      I hope that helped a bit.


  3. I personally think that if women earn more money than men, it wouldn’t be a big problem. As long as both couple are working and do their best to grow financially, things will be totally fine. However, if a woman is the only one that works hard but men do nothing, then it will create tension.

    Men are the one who are supposed to take care of the family. They should at least do something about it. I see some husbands just use the money earned from wives to have fun. That will be a conflict. But as for earning difference, it would be still okay. 🙂

    1. Hi Edy,

      Yes, this is certainly an issue, or could be, when a man does earn less money or none at all. This is still a part of our culture and or society we have grown up.

      But, I am confident that time will change too in this matter, it just takes time and the mass consciousness also has to change.

      Only time will tell. Thanks for your input.


  4. H Sylvia,
    It was nice to read your post. It is a shame that some men feel tensed when they earn less money than their women and also it is a shame that some women make them feel like it, I think it should not matter who earns more as far as your needs are met.

    1. Thank you for your comment and your input. this was also my intention too, that’s why I wrote this articleinate these old thinkining and or opinions. 🙂


  5. Hello!

    I like the fact that you are speaking about this, as I would call it, the ultimate stupidity in human behavior. I could never understand that.
    My girlfriend makes more money that I do, and if I would follow the same pattern, I should be miserable about it. Feel less of a man!? How stupid would that be. I know this kind of reality affects many people and I know some of them. What a shame!

    Nevertheless, it is good that you write about it. Thanks!

    1. Hi Igor,

      Thank you for your comment and being so open.

      It is funny, or said (depends how you feel about it) that we still have these issues in our High Tech society, but I guess old patterns die out a bit slower as we all would like too.

      Glad to hear, that you are one of the “matured” ones. 🙂


  6. I spoke to an advisor of my college. They were talking about the world issue and one of the topics involved is the increasing of the role of woman in the society today. I also heard it somewhere that a couple should aim for encouraging each other to reach their full potential.

    1. Hi Adrian,

      This is exactly correct, men and women should be working together to reach their potential as a cpuple and as a family, to everyone’s desire and need.

  7. I guess that many times some tension can occur in a relationship for this reason and I was in this kind of situation in one period of time. Yes, there was a tension.

    Old beliefs are installed so deeply in our brains, or maybe really the man and woman model that were here for ages is true and right? Whatever it is, I think despite how much who earns, first should come respect and help for each other in order to grow.


    1. I appreciate your comment and insight on this article’s content.

      It is good to be open to it and talk about it as well.

      Thanks for taking your time to do just that. 🙂

  8. Hi Sylvia,

    For me, I think I feel comfortable when my better half making more than me. Actually, it was. When we married, my wife was a Cram School English teacher, I was a sales manager of a local Public Listed IT company. She made twice more than I made. I always liked to develop own business and she supported me to do what I would like to do! 10 years ago, she is tired of her teaching career and decided to go to the US to study further. My business was quite well at that time and I supported her to get her master degree. When she would like to pursue her doctoral degree, NYU accepted her, but to consider the expense and living cost, she chose Suny Buffalo. After she got Ph.D., we backed to Taipei and she is teaching and doing research in University. We help each other to fulfill dreams. So my experience is a bit different from others.

    The reason I want to have my own business is to do what I like and make more money. I want to have freedom for both time and money.The truth is I am getting busier and business has its risks. That is the reason why I would like to learn the Internet marketing. I invested at least 5 digits money in learning, at the end, to be honest getting nothing. Until I found Wealthy Affiliate and joined. This community is quite different, many genuine training courses and people help others here. I believe it can help us to be successful in online business.

    1. Hi George,

      Thank you so much for your honest comment, it shows that when both partners support each other in their personal pursue that it really can work without the “Ego” crashing everything apart.

      Very interesting how you both did it. Congratulations 🙂


  9. Hi, Sylvia. I think that everything depends on both of man and woman, how they will look at this situation. It is nothing wrong when partners share shores and responsibilities. I know families where husband stays at home with children and mother goes to work.
    Of course there are plenty of men who can not accept that woman can be able earn money more as him.
    However nobody can change him. The man must deal with his ego and work on this issue.
    I am glad that you found Wealthy Affiliate as the place where everybody can learn how to be financially independent.
    All the best, be healthy and wealthy, Nemira.

    1. Hi Neimira,

      Thanks for commenting and yes, you are absolutely right that it also depends on both parties on how they approach this issue and how they will deal with it.

      We can’t change another person’s point of view or attitude, but we can change always ours. 🙂


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